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No More Talking Mummy!
My little Zen master, who’s almost three years old, said those words to me quite loudly the other day when I had raised my voice in frustration over a topic that I was extremely passionate about. Passion is something that I’m well known to have plenty of in my spirit.
I continued verbalizing in a loud voice until he suddenly yelled out to me and kicked the person with whom I was having the discussion. That stopped me cold immediately, and I looked down in surprise, “Whoa buddy, what’s that about?” I gently asked, hoping to stop him. He then began to cry and repeat “no more talking please Mummy.”
Well, at that moment I realized to what extent my frustration and actions had affected him. Talk about calming down in an instant! To see my child react in such a hurt and emotional way and even act out by physically kicking someone just to get our attention was such a huge lesson for me.
Nothing could have opened my eyes and ears up as quickly – and affected my heart so completely as this moment. My breath calmed immediately and my eyes filled with tears of empathy as I held him and apologized, explaining to him that I was not angry but just overly excited – in a manner that I will attempt to curb in the future.
We both held each other until he stopped sobbing and realized that all was safe. His Mummy was safe.
And that’s how my little Zen master, in a fleeting moment, taught me yet another wonderful and powerful lesson of awareness and consciousness.
[tags]awareness, consciousness, stop talking, calm down, frustration[/tags]