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I Hate School!
Well, my son has finally reached the age where it is time for him to begin experiencing school. So many asked if I would home school him, but I don’t think that it would give him enough worldly experience if I were to do so, unless I was a world traveller.
So, after much time spent looking into all the different pre-schools in my district — there are over 100 to choose from — I finally found one that I felt would be a nice fit for him to begin his new experience.
The first day was traumatic. He had always said he didn’t want to go to school, even when he was alone at the park and all the other kids had already started school at 2 or 3 years of age. To this day, I still don’t know why he had this aversion to going to school.
On his first day, he was brave for the first 10 minutes when I introduced him to the teachers — five of them in total.
Then, when I was about to leave, he clung on to me and cried, asking me to stay. I know that many parents out there have all gone through an experience like this at one time or other with their children.
I stayed positive and loving but it did not work. So one of the teachers guided him to a chair to sit with others and, as he began to calm down, I quickly left.
When I picked him up six hours later, he started to cry again, saying how much he had missed me and how he wanted to go home.
Funnily enough, though, that evening he told the nanny and one of his aunts how he really liked school. How he wanted to go back. He had already brought home four pages of his work to show us.
But to me. . . “I HATE SCHOOL and I never want to go back”!
It made me realize the similarity between his situation and that of elderly people when they move into an assisted living place. It takes time for them to adjust before they become accustomed to being there.
I guess some things may never change.
Does this sound familiar to you?
Are you about to reach this stage with your child or elder?
[tags] Christina Souza Ma, teachers, traumatic, choose, pre-school, child, elder, hate, fun, parent, [/tags]