Death: Can we face that fear?
Over the last few months, we’ve had many individuals passing, from popular celebrities to our friends and family.
I just wrote to my friend who is attending a funeral today, “How wonderful that this person is beginning a new life in the wild blue yonder.” And that’s truly how I feel.
Several months ago, I was requested to have a conversation with an individual about her cancer that had relapsed and the depressed state that she was in as a result. I just simply asked her how she felt about the cancer she had been dealing with and the depression that had seemed to overcome her. Would you believe that she was down and weak because she did not feel supported by her loved ones? She did not want any more Chemo or medication, but because of the family’s fear of letting her go, they pressured and insisted that she continue with the next level of treatments, even though it made her feel so nauseated and weak.
She felt she had done wonderful things in her life. She had lived it to the fullest. She was ready to let go now – but no one dared to ask these questions until the moment when I did. Her bottom line was that, if she was going to continue living, it needed to be with quality.I felt so honoured to be chatting with her and sharing so much of her life in such a short time – and most of all to let her know that I believed in how she felt. That acknowledgement in itself helped to boost her spirits and energy. It made such a difference for her just to know that someone out there truly believed in her and her choice, and that she was not wrong to feel those feelings.
I know that it is easier said than done. It is never easy to let go of someone you love dearly. But if we truly love someone or something, isn’t just being present for them the best gift we could possibly give?
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I met the man who create Graceful Passages. It’s important to honor people’s choice in their path. I think it’s wonderful that you assisted her in that way. Blessings to you. M
Thank you M,
I think it’s so important to let others know that our own fear of letting go does affect the ones who are already dealing with the imbalance. They don’t need any more stress than they are already finding their way with.
Thank you for sharing this book with us.
I recently experienced the dying process with my brother-in-law. From the time of diagnosis – terminal cancer – in lymph nodes, lungs and liver – to his passing, he lived for three weeks. Although I only visited with him four times in the three weeks – one of those visits was the night before he died. He had been admitted into the hospital in the “family room” and that evening all of us – in-laws, nieces, nephews, grand children and children and his spouse – visited with him and each other between his room and the attached lounge. We laughed and joked and hugged and my brother-in-law – Ken was so totally and completely at ease with us all and with what was happening to him. That morning he told his wife – “I’m dying mom” and little did we know that he would pass away early the next morning. My memory of him will be how gracious he was to all of us in his dying. What a gift!
Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute to Ken your brother-in-law. I’m certain he was able to find his peace while witnessing the beautiful energies of his loved ones.